It’s not rocket science I know, Mouth + Fanny = Orgasm (90% of the time), but are you giving it your all? Seventy-five percent of women can only cum from clitoral stimulation, so you can never give it too much attention in my opinion. Have a read of these top oral sex tips and the next time you’re dining down south put a few into action, I promise you won’t regret it.
Suck and Nibble
A sexy little nibble (gently, unless she’s into that!) and an actual suck on her clit will drive her wild. Some are more sensitive than others so just keep an eye on her reactions.
“The entire vulva consists of sensitive nerve fibers,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. “So being able to suck on the glans or the head of the clit and lightly nibble on her inner and outer labia, or suck a little on labia, will stimulate the nerve fibers.”
The sucking will also lead to more blood flow to the vulva and the clitoris, which Kerner describes as “kind of like a little vacuum pump.”
Gums and Teeth
“Think of yourself as an immovable point of resistance and let her do the work,” says Dr. Kerner. “You can press into the tops of your teeth and gums on the area above the clitoral glans where the clitoral hood is, and just lay there providing that hard and still point of resistance.”
This works especially well if she wants to “sit on your face.”, as she has control over her movements and you’re not likely to catch her with your teeth by accident.
“The Alphabet” is a method of clitoral stimulation that you’ve probably heard of before and it’s certainly stood the test of time.
“This is used more in the early arousal foreplay time, as opposed to providing that persistent and consistent clitoral stimulation [that leads to orgasm],” says Dr. Kerner. “It’s a good way to take an A to Z tour of her vulva.”
“You can start by ‘painting’ the alphabet with your tongue on the wider canvas of her entire vulva, as opposed to on the tip of her clitoris,” he says. “You can start with the A on the outer labia then cross the A on her clit and move over to the other side. It’s a great way to tease and tantalize.”
Paint the Fence/Windscreen Wipers
Exactly what it says on the tin. Imagine you’re painting a fence from top to bottom, only using your tongue. And then go into the windscreen wiper move of going side-to-side with your tongue. It can also be fun to warm her up by blowing on her clit with your warm breath first, just to get her going.
Don’t miss a spot
While a lot of attention is spent on the actual clit — the full length of it, which is estimated to be approximately four inches long, is sometimes forgotten.
“Slide your fingers to either side of her clitoral shaft,” explains Dr. Cadell. “Pull and push the clitoral hood across the clitoris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.”
She adds: “Use one finger flicking all around the clitoris but not directly on it. To bring your partner to orgasm, once she is at the height of pleasure, you’ll want to maintain a steady consistent stroke.”
Play the Harmonica
Once your partner is in the throes of an orgasm, add some oral vibration to send her into overdrive.
“Make your lips into an O and take her clitoris in your mouth,” says Dr. Cadell. “Then make humming sounds as you suck on her clit, as if you are playing a harmonica, so that she can feel the warm, wet vibrations.”
“Touching or sucking her inner lips actually pulls on the clitoris and it’s really useful for women whose clitoris gets too sensitive,” says Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., author of A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.
The clitoris has 8,000 sensory nerve endings, twice as many as the penis, so direct contact can often be too much stimulation for some women.
Why not add a little buzz to your oral play? Use a bullet on her during or between licks, guaranteed to send her over the edge in double quick time!
There is an array of arousal oils and balms designed to bring tingling or heating sensation to her clit.
“Go slowly with trying these out,” advises Dr. Mintz.. “Some women are too sensitive and the sensation can be too intense.”
Obviously if you’re going to be licking/sucking/nibbling/eating her I recommend an edible type of oil/lube! Who’s feeling hungry?