Hi Fanny, I’ve been with my girlfriend for two years and I love her a lot. In the past 6 months we’ve started to experiment more and open up to each other about our fantasies and desires. One night after getting hot and horny she told me that she wanted me to piss on her…so I did. It didn’t really turn me on or off, I didn’t mind doing it, but I thought it was just a one off sexual experiment. Now she wants me to do it all the time and even wants to piss on me during sex! I don’t want to disappoint her, but I’m not sure I’m as into it as she is and I’m worried it might be a deal breaker in our relationship. Please help.
M, North West
Hey M! It’s great that you and your girlfriend have a relationship where you feel comfortable sharing your deepest fantasies, it’s not always easy to confess that you’re into something a little bit kinkier than the norm and it’s a testament to you that your girlfriend felt she was able to open up to you. And I commend you for being experimental and willing to give it a go! Don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it I say.
Now in your circumstances you’ve accepted your girlfriend’s kinky nature, you did give it a go and it’s not for you. There’s no harm in that. You’re not knocking her fetish for watersports, you just don’t want to play such an active role in it.
It’s good to be selfless on occasion and treat our sexual partners to an act that may not be top of our own wish lists, turning them on will often in turn turn us on. But forcing yourself to do something you’re not really into and get little sexual pleasure from will inevitably cause problems in your relationship in the long run.
Always be honest with your partner and don’t do anything you don’t want to do. It will depend on her level of interest in the fetish, is it something she thinks she can live without? Would she be happy with occasional piss play rather than regular? Can you reach a compromise? Talk to her, listen to her and hopefully you will reach a place where you’re both happy with your level of kinkiness.
Watersports isn’t as uncommon as you might think, there are literally thousands of people who get off on it and there are varying levels of play. Being free to discuss the fantasy of it may be enough for some, where others may not be able to achieve any level of sexual stimulation without the involvement of piss. You and your girlfriend shared a healthy sex life before the fetish came to light, so I’m confident you’ll find a level playing field and enjoy many kinky years to come, enjoy!