Sexual Healing

Question

Dear Fanny, I love having sex with my wife and I also love to play with myself!! I
cum well both ways, but if my wife strokes me or sucks me off I dont cum!!
It feels amazing with her doing it, but I never climax for her 🙁 help!!!
Nathan

Answer

Hey Nathan, Firstly it’s lovely to hear how you feel about your wife and I commend you for taking the first step towards a better sex life! So! First thing’s first, you cum fine during sex and masturbation, so the issue doesn’t lay within the plumbing, if you get my meaning? 😉

Two things spring to mind in this instance Nathan. Firstly, it could be a mental block. Something in your mind that is stopping you from surrendering to that release, but you say it feels amazing and you obviously want to cum for her so I think it’s more likely to be my second thought, which is…

You love your wife, you enjoy sex with her and you cum fine on your own…as amazing as it feels when she goes down on you or uses her hand…I’m guessing she’s not quuuuuuite using the technique you need. That’s not to say she’s doing it wrong! We’re all made differently and we all need different stimulation to take us to the point of orgasm.

I’ve known a few (ok a good few) guys who LOVE getting blow/hand jobs, but it takes a VERY skilled mouth/hand to actually make them cum. You know your own body better than anyone, you’ve been making yourself cum for many years (I’m guessing). We learn what pleases us and condition our bodies to that certain hand movement, speed and pressure. Show her how to pleasure you, tell her what you need.

Always make her feel beautiful, sexy, build her confidence as you teach her what turns you on the most. For instance ‘Oh God yeah I love it when you do that…more’ or ‘If you keep doing that you’re going to make me cum’. Don’t be afraid to talk to her, teach her. It’s not criticism, it’s guidance and I’m sure you’ll both be much happier for it. I really hope this helps, good luck!
Fanny xx