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Question

Dear Fanny, I’ve been seeing this girl for about 3 months and we’ve only ever had sex in the missionary position. I’m getting a bit bored of it.

Phil

Answer

Hi Phil, I’m guessing that at 3 months your girl should be starting to feel a little more comfortable with you and secure about your interest in her.  That being said, where some girls are more than happy to whip out the Karma Sutra on the first night, others may need a little more gentle…coaxing shall we say?

If it’s a confidence issue then suggesting a more adventurous approach in the wrong way might do more harm than good.  The right tact is vital in this situation.  Some women can be extremely self conscious, convinced that bedroom gymnastics will show off jiggly bits and bobs in the most unflattering manner.  Reassure her of how attractive you find her and how sexy she looks in different positions.

Another possible reason for her reluctance could well be that she can only (or at least think she can) only achieve orgasm in this position.  I know of a lot of women that can only orgasm vaginally from a particular angle of penetration.  This could well be the case with your new squeeze.  Which is perfectly fine, but although the obvious destination is to help her achieve orgasm, it’s nice to take the scenic route on occasion.

Wanting to experiment is perfectly natural, especially at the beginning of a relationship.  Try to convince her that you’re just as interested in her pleasure as you are  your own.

I’d always advise communication, sensitivity and patience.  You can only try.  Worst case scenario, you give it your best shot and it doesn’t work out.  On the flip side, your patience and encouragement could pay off and you have yourself your very own sex vixen.  Good luck!

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