Question:
Hi Fanny, I know you probably don’t get many emails from women, but I thought you might be the best girl to ask for some advice! My husband’s biggest fantasy has always been to have a threesome and after many years of marriage and a bit of a lull in our sex life I’m starting to come round to the idea. I’m not gay or bi, but I’m not completely turned off by the idea, I just have no idea how to go about it! Your thoughts would be appreciated.
Anon
Answer:
Hey there and thanks for being my first girl on girl Ask Fanny (I don’t discriminate ;))! Well first of all may I say what a lucky guy your husband is! That you are thinking of ways to spice up your sex life and actively seeking out ideas for his pleasure (and ultimately yours) is awesome in my book. The threesome was voted No 1 in my Top 10 Male Sexual Fantasies so there’s no doubting it’s popularity. Is it so popular because so many have experienced it and recommended it to their friends, like the rampant rabbit? Or is it because it is so taboo in most relationships that the forbidden aspect is what makes it so alluring, like the bedding your partner’s sister fantasy? That is a question that I suppose can only be answered once personally tried and tested. Only you know your husband, your relationship and yourself well enough to know the possible effects inviting another woman into your bed (or you know, a travelodges’) will have on you. Are you the jealous type? So often the case is ‘Hey Babe, look what I got you..’ of course MOST guys go for the idea and are then resented/rebuffed for their actions, which might make them reluctant to even go for the idea in the first place. I suggest talking about it, not analysing it to death, but a serious, honest discussion about the possible outcomes. As for you not being gay/bi you’re at least curious by your own admission. Women are beautiful, sexual creatures and more often than not know exactly how to treat each other during sexual acts, if you catch my drift…
Experimenting with another woman can be a fun, sexually enlightening and orgasm inducing experience and if nothing else it’s something you can tick off the bucket list! Don’t knock it until you try it etc.
Perhaps watching a few FFM (female, female, male) clips online alone and then with your husband will help you to gauge how much excitement you get from the scenario. It might be that discussing it/watching it together will make the fantasy real enough to reignite some passion on it’s own.
If you DO decide to go for it, who you choose is something that is entirely down to you and your husband. Whether you prefer a trusted friend or a total stranger is something you will have to discuss.
Whatever you decide, I hope it’s pleasurable for all involved! Stay sexy, Fanny xx
