Question:
Dear Charlotte,
My girlfriend is really bad at giving me a blow job and I’ve tried to tell her what she should be doing but every time I mention it, she makes me feel bad in a way I have insulted her. How can I tell her how to improve without hurting her feelings and also making her not want to do it…?
Thanks, John
Answer:
Hi John,
First we need to establish what exactly is she doing wrong?
Too much teeth? Too hard? Too soft? Not fast enough, too fast?
Only you know how you like it, so without that info I can only advice on how to get to the point of trying something new and the easiest way to try new ways of oral is to watch someone else doing it, i.e. watching Pornography or some sexy clips that you may have found online together so you can make comments like “that looks nice” or “do you think you could do that?” Or “that looks like it would be really sexy, can we try it?” Having the confidence to be able to ask is paramount to getting the sexual activities you want to try rein-acted. Be honest, be open, but be polite. You can be too open which can come across offensive, so be mindful in how you are asking/telling/stating something to your partner.
Have you thought about trying different positions? The 69 is a great way to get pleasure for both of you but remember her mouth will be a different way round than if she was in front of you, which will give a different sensation and feeling than if she was at the side of you or leaning over you (whilst sat down).
You’ve also got the position that if she was in the middle of your legs, you could always tell her that she can tone up her arms at the same time as pleasuring you. If she wants to try it she needs to keep her arms in a right angle with palms flat on the bed, and move her head up and down using her arms to support her. She probably won’t be able to maintain this position for long though so expect her to get comfortable in a side position, and go into her usual mode if you haven’t been open and honest with her already.
You need to remember that when a woman is leaning in from the side, her neck muscles are going to ache, so help her into a position that she can maintain a good rhythm. Don’t force her to go deep, you can cause damage to the back of a woman throat so don’t just grab her head and slam it down your cock, the porn you’ve been watching has been performed by trained skilled performers, and deep throat is not enjoyed by all women…this is fact guys!
Ask her what she likes, does she like performing oral? If not, why? The majority of girls that I know have been struck by the head ram and that’s why they don’t like giving blow jobs to guys, or if they do they won’t do it for long in fear of the head ram.
Well John, there are a couple of tips here but what you do is up to you.
Keep me posted on how it goes.
Love, Charlotte
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